And so the journey to self-acceptance continues. The ladies of the MGS Sister Circle met to tackle the last six steps to self-acceptance and what a time it was. The journey continued with “grieving the loss of unrealized dreams“. How many of us still hold on to what might have been instead of re-creating and working on what will be or what can be? It’s okay to mourn the loss of unfulfilled dreams but it’s not okay to dwell on the loss to the point of stagnation. Next we discussed the good feelings that come from doing good deeds for others. Part of creating our highest and best selves comes from giving to and doing for others. Then on to realizing that acceptance is not resignation. Letting go of the past and things that are out of your control does not mean giving up. It means re-focusing your energy on those things that are within your power to change and being empowered to do so. This is not always as simple or as easy as it sounds. There will be periods of self-doubt and chaos. And during those times it is suggested that you engage in a visualization exercise where you envision and speak to your highest or best self and what your highest or best self would advise you to do in the situation. One of the advice your highest or best self might give would be to be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with compassion and empathy, understanding the it is human to err and that being weak is a part of being human. Accept yourself and in doing so, find perfection in your imperfection. Finally we closed with an understanding that the road to self-acceptance is long and filled with self-doubt. Self-acceptance will not come easy to most, but if we continue to practice at it, having faith that we will one day achieve it then we end up in a much better place than where we begun. Fake it ’til you make it!
To learn more about self-acceptance read this PsychCentral.com article on 12 Ways to Accept Yourself by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. Stay tuned for Part IV as we complete this journey to self-acceptance. Until then…Be Well! ~Shari
The MGS Sister Circle meets every other Wednesday evening at 6:30pm. Call Shari at (754) 999-0716 for this month’s dates. Like MGS Counseling and Therapy Services on Facebook for information and updates on future gatherings, topics and guest speakers.
Shari Warner, JD, LMFT is a Therapist, Attorney and Public Speaker in South Florida. Shari works with individuals and couples to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Shari call (754) 999-0716 or email her at email@example.com.